Ancestors of Mandy Willard

Eastman Stickland BARHAM (1793-1877)

and Mary JEFFERY (1791-1872)

Eastman Stickland Barham and Mary Jeffery married by banns on 9 July 1816 at the parish church of St. Peter and St. Paul in Wadhurst, Sussex.  They were both then of Wadhurst.  The witnesses to their marriage were Nicholas Barham and Jane ?.  (They were not my direct ancestors.  Eastman was the brother of my 4x Great Grandfather, Nicholas Barham.)

Eastman Stickland Barham was born on 3 May and baptised on 21 June 1793 in Wadhurst.  He was the second son and fourth child of Nicholas Barham (1750-1807) and Elizabeth Strickland (1755-1803).   He died aged 84 years at Edenbridge, Kent and was buried on 14 June 1877 in Wadhurst.  He was a farmer.  Eastman was mentioned in his father's will.

Mary Jefferies was probably baptised on 29 May 1791 in Brenchley, Kent, the daughter of John Jefferies and Alice Crundell.  But there was another Mary baptised on 19 April 1795 in Brenchley who was the daughter of Edward Jeffery and Lydia Hickmott.  Mary died aged 80 years in Edenbridge and was buried on 9 April 1872 in Wadhurst.

When the 1841 census was recorded the family were living in Sparrows Green, Wadhurst and Eastman was a wheelwright.  In 1851 the couple were living at Buttons Farm in Wadhurst.  Estman was then a 57 year old farmer of 35 acres employing 3 labourers and Mary was 59 and gave her place of birth as Brenchley.  Also with them on census night were their children Philidelphia and John, 21 year old married niece Hannah Dame and her 2 month old daughter Mary A. Dame, and 2 servants, Luke F. Wickham a 25 year old agricultural labourer and 40 year old Joseph Smith who was also an agricultural labourer.    The couple were still at Buttons in 1861 and Eastman was a farmer of 38 acres employing 1 labourer.  They were living alone in 1871 at Sparrows Green and Eastmand was a retired wheelwright.  Next door were the family of Benjamin Jeffery who was a married 36 year old wheelwright.

Eastman Strickland Barham and Mary Jeffery had 4 known children:

1. Alfred Barham was born on 15 September and baptised on 24 October 1819 in Wadhurst.  He died aged 81 years on 13 April 1901 at Mayfield.  At the time of the 1841 census he was living with his parents.  In 1851, Alfred was an unmarried 30 year old and the head of his household in Sparrows Green.  He was then a wheelwright employing 1 man.  Also with him was his brother Stephen and 17 year old servant/housekeeper Ann Jeffery.

   Alfred married Ann Homewood on 9 November 1852 in the parish church at Wadhurst.

   Ann was born on 29 February 1824 in Wadhurst.  She was the daughter of John Homewood (c1788-?).  She died aged 76 years on 1 April 1900 at Dove Cottage in Fletching Street, Mayfield.  Alfred and Ann are buried together, along with four of their children, in a family grave in Rotherfield Churchyard.  In 1841 she was living with her father and younger siblings at Keys Mill in Pembury, Kent, and her father was then a miller.  When the 1851 census was recorded she was an unmarried 27 year old living at home with her widower father and 2 younger siblings at Wind Mill Home in Brenchley.  Her father was then a master miller.

   In 1861 the family were living in Sparrows Green, Wadhurst, where Alfred was a wheelwright.  The 1871 census records that the family were living at Little Snape Cottage in Wadhurst and Alfred was still a wheelwright.  By 1881 the family were living in Waterloo Farm House in Burwash where Alfred was a farmer of 31 acres.  In 1891, 71 year old Alfred and 67 year old Ann, were living with the family of their son Benjamin at South View in Rotherfield.  Alfred was an 81 year old retired farmer living in Fletching Street, Mayfield when the 1901 census was recorded.  Also with him on census night was his daughter Naomi and an 11 year old nurse child, Nellie Earls.

   Alfred and Ann had 7 known children:

   1. Obediah Barham was born on 28 July 1853 in Wadhurst.  He died on 9 July 1857 at Sparrows Green in Wadhurst.  His cause of death was Synovitis 8 days and Typhoid Fever 5 days.  He was buried on 13 July 1857 in Wadhurst.

   2. Elizabeth Barham was born on 9 April 1855 in Wadhurst.  In 1861 she was a 6 year old scholar.  She was a 15 year old assistant when the 1871 census was recorded.  She married Charles Locke  in 1877.  They had 13 known children.

   3. Benjamin Barham was born on 8 September 1857 at Sparrows Green in Wadhurst.  He died on 12 September 1928 at Crowborough and was buried in the Crowborough cemetery.  In 1861 he was a 4 year old scholar and in 1871 he was a 14 year old scholar.

      Benjamin married Emma Eliza Huntley in 1884.  She was born about 1860 in Hornchurch, Essex.  Benjamin and Emma had 9 children.

      When the 1891 census was recorded the couple and their 4 young children were living at South View in Rotherfield and Benjamin was a carpenter.

   4. Mary Ann Barham, known as Polly was born on 26 December 1858 in Wadhurst.  She died unmarried on 3 May 1930 and was buried in the Rotherfield Churchyard.  Polly was a Buyer for Dickens & Jones Department Store.  She did not marry.  When the 1861 census was recorded she was 2 years old.  She was a 12 year old scholar in 1871.

   5. Mercy Barham was born on 24 September 1861 in Wadhurst.  She died on 15 August 1890 at High Cross in Rotherfield and was buried in the Rotherfield Churchyard.  She did not marry.  In 1871 she was a 9 year old scholar.  In 1881 she was living at home with her parents and younger sister and she was then a 19 year old dressmaker.

   6. Naomi Barham was born on 24 April 1864 in Wadhurst.  She died on 3 April 1948 and was buried in the Rotherfield Churchyard.  She did not marry.  In 1871 she was a 7 year old scholar.  The 1881 census records that she was a 17 year old mother's help.  In 1891 she was 27 years old and living with the family of her brother Benjamin.  The 1901 census incorrectly records that she was 29 year old.

   7. Ebenezer Barham was born on 3 November 1865 in Wadhurst.  He died on 27 February 1930 in Sevenoaks, Kent and was buried in Rotherfield Churchyard.  He was a Printer Compositor / Sub-Postmaster.  He did not marry.  In 1871 he was a 6 year old scholar.

              

      Very many thanks to Helen Johnson for the above photographs.  Please click on an image for a larger view.

2. Stephen Barham was born on 22 July and baptised on 28 August 1822 in Wadhurst.  He died aged 47 years and was buried on 7 September 1869 in Wadhurst.  When the 1841 census was recorded he was a 15 year old wheelwright living at Newhouse in Wadhurst in the home of 55 year old Sarah Wenham.  In 1851 he was an unmarried 27 year old journeyman wheelwright living with his elder brother.

   Stephen married Elizabeth before 1854, possibly Elizabeth Scouse in the first quarter of 1853 in the Chelsea registration district of London.

   Elizabeth was born about 1832 in Hampshire.

   When the 1861 census was recorded the family were living in Withernden, Burwash and Stephen was a master wheelwright.

   Stephen and Elizabeth had 7 known children:

   1. George Barham was born about 1854 in Wadhurst.  He was 7 years old when the 1861 census was recorded and living with his parents.

      George married Mary E. before 1879.  This may have been to Mary Ann E. Jacke in the second quarter of 1877 in the St. Olave, Southwark registration district.  She was born about 1852 in Bermondsey, Surrey.  They had 3 known children.  In 1881 they were living at 43 Byron Street, London, and George was then a dock foreman.  In 1891 the couple and 3 children were living at 4 Ullin Street, Bromley and George was a dock foreman.  By 1901 the family were living in East Ham and George was a dock clerk.

   2. Emily Barham was born on 23 August 1856 at Ticehurst (ref. Jack Pickford).  She was 4 years old when the 1861 census was recorded.  Emily died on 24 October 1880, which resulted in her 2 young daughters being split up between the families (ref. Jack Pickford).

      Emily married Daniel Smith on 25 December 1877 and lived at Monks Hill in East Grinstead (ref. Jack Pickford).

      Daniel was born on 6 July 1851 in Horsted Keyes, Kent (ref. Jack Pickford).  He was a gardener.  Daniel next married Hannah Richardson (1855-1933) in 1885 at Islip in Northamptonshire (ref. Jack Pickford).  Hannah died at Thrapstone, Northants where she lived with Lillian May Nutt.

      Daniel and Emily had the following children:

      1. Lillian May Smith was born on 3 March 1879.  After her mother's death she went to the Smith family (ref. Jack Pickford).  Lillian married Frederick J Nutt in the first quarter of 1914 in the Thrapston, Northamptonshire registration district.

          

         Lillian May Nutt, nee Smith and Frederik J. Nutt, photographs courtesy of Jack Pickford

      2. Ellen Elizabeth Smith was born on 4 July 1880.  She was raised by the Barham family (ref. Jack Pickford).

   3. Samuel Barham was baptised privately on 14 January 1858 and his baptism was recorded in the Stonegate, Sussex register.  At that time his father was a wheelwright of Withernden Hill.  He died aged 1 day and was buried on 16 January 1858.

   4. Rowland Barham was born in the second quarter of 1859 in Burwash and baptised on 3 July 1859 in Stonegate, at which time his father was a wheelwright of Witherenden Hill..  He was a year old in 1861.

   5. Talitha-Cumi Barham (daughter) was born in the second quarter of 1862 in Wadhurst.  She died on 3 February 1947 at 47 Queens Drive, Finsbury and is buried at Wadhurst (ref. Jack Pickford).    Another Talitha-cumi Barham was born in November 1862 and she was the daughter of Thomas Barham and Louisa Ann Wallis.  The 1881 census index records that an 18 year old Talitha Barchand or Barhand, who was born in Wadhurst, was a pupil teacher boarding at Bourne End Lane, Northchurch, Hertfordshire, in the home of Thomas Johnson.  By 1901 she was probably the 38 year old Talitha Barham living in Islington, London, where she was an elementary teacher.  She was known as Aunt Tally, never married and lived with a teacher colleague, Susan Davies at St. Georges Avenue, Islington. (ref. Jack Pickford).

       

      Talitha Barham - note the date on the blackboard, i.e. 20 June 1922 (thanks to Jack Pickford for the photo)

   6. Ansley Rosina Barham was born in the first quarter of 1864 in Wadhurst.  She may have married in 1890.

   7. Flora Minnie M. Barham was born in the first quarter of 1868 in Wadhurst.  She married John Augustus B. Carter in 1898.  When the 1901 census was recorded the couple were living in Southborough, Kent, and John was then a 27 year old assurance agent, who had been born in Hellingly, Sussex.

   8. Clara Ellen Barham was born in the first quarter of 1870 in Wadhurst.  She married Walter William Gibb in 1894.  He was born about 1870 in Wadhurst and was the son of David W. Gibb (c1835-?) a wheelwright and Catherine.  By 1901 the couple had 2 known children and the family were living in Tunbridge Wells where Walter was a carpenter.

3. Philadelphia Barham was born on 15 April and baptised on 26 April 1824 in Wadhurst.  In 1841, 15 year old Philly was living with her parents.  In 1851 she was an unmarried 29 year old employed at home.

4. John Barham was born on 10 April and baptised on 12 April 1831 in Wadhurst.  He died aged 82 years and was buried on 23 February 1914 in Wadhurst.  In 1841 John and his elder brother Stephen were living at Newhouse in Wadhurst, the home of Sarah Wenham.  He was 19 years old when the 1851 census was recorded and he was employed at home.

   John married Elizabeth Pope in 1858.  She was born about 1838 in Ticehurst and may have died aged 54 years in 1892.  Elizabeth was the daughter of Stephen Pope (c1803-?), a grocer, and Ann Austin (c1808-?).

   When the 1861 census was recorded the couple and their daughter Eliza were living at Buttons in Wadhurst.  By 1881 the family were living at Hoopers in Lingfield, Surrey where John was a farmer of 138 acres.

   John and Elizabeth had 4 known children:

   1. Eliza Barham was born in the fourth quarter of 1859 in Wadhurst.  She was a year old when the 1851 census was recorded.

   2. Mary Ann Barham was born in the second quarter of 1861 in Wadhurst.

   3. Thomas John Barham was born in the fourth quarter of 1863 in Wadhurst.

   4. Elizabeth Barham was born in the second quarter of 1870 in Edenbridge, Kent.

   When the 1901 census was recorded, John was living in Southborough, Kent along with wife Eliza who was born about 1838 in Lewes, Sussex.  John was then a wheelwright.  John Barham married Eliza Jane Moon in 1894.

BARHAM          JEFFERY